[sclug] OT: Social question

John Stumbles sclug at yaph.org.uk
Sun May 31 12:36:55 UTC 2009

ed wrote:

> Is this something that other computer professionals find to be
> problematic given the nature of IT work?

Can't help thinking of a character in one of David Lodge's novels ("Nice 
Work", maybe?). She's a thirty-something academic in a provincial 
university who's single and laments that all the men she meets are 
either "married, gay or scientists" :-) (It was written before IT was 
big and I suspect Lodge would have picked on IT people if he'd written 
it now.)

Personally I find that women I like and get on with even on the phone (I 
don't do online social networking) I don't necessarily like face to 
face. To some extent maybe that's the tyranny of attractiveness (heard a 
sad story about a blind guy who met a really nice girl and started going 
out with her, until a mate of his remarked that she looked a bit of a 
dog, and he dropped her). But he fact is that you need to like a person 
in all respects that matter to you if you're going to have an intimate 
relationship with them and visual aspects do matter, as well as other 
personality factors. Not just looks of course: the way a person moves 
conveys perhaps more than what you'd get from a photo.

So, what others have said about getting out and doing social stuff is 
right, I think.

John Stumbles                                       http://yaph.org.uk

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